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By Robert A. Johnson
Provides an illuminating explanation of the origins and meaning of romantic love and shows how a proper understanding of its psychological dynamics can revitalize our most important relationships.
By Ina May Gaskin
What you need to know to have the best birth experience for you.Drawing upon her thirty-plus years of experience, Ina May Gaskin, the nation’s leading midwife, shares the benefits and joys of natural childbirth by showing women how to trust in the ancient wisdom of their bodies for a healthy and fulfilling birthing experience. Based on the female-centered Midwifery Model of Care, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth gives expectant mothers comprehensive information on everything from the all-important mind-body connection to how to give birth without technological intervention.Filled with inspiring birth stories and practical advice, this invaluable resource includes:• Reducing the pain of labor without drugs—and the miraculous roles touch and massage play• What really happens during labor• Orgasmic birth—making birth pleasurable• Episiotomy—is it really necessary?• Common methods of inducing labor—and which to avoid at all costs• Tips for maximizing your chances of an unmedicated labor and birth• How to avoid postpartum bleeding—and depression• The risks of anesthesia and cesareans—what your doctordoesn’t necessarily tell you• The best ways to work with doctors and/or birth care providers• How to create a safe, comfortable environment forbirth in any setting, including a hospital• And much moreIna May’s Guide to Childbirth takes the fear out of childbirth by restoring women’s faith in their own natural power to give birth with more ease, less pain, and less medical intervention.
By Sue Johnson
Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world. In HOLD ME TIGHT, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
By John Van Epp
AVOID THE JERKS AND FIND “THE ONE” WHO'S RIGHT FOR YOU"An insightful and creative contribution to managing the complexity of choosing a life partner. I heartily recommend it."--Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find"Don't be part of the 'where-was-this-book-when-I-needed-it?' crowd. It's not too late--read it now!"--Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love and Hot MonogamyBased on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (previously published in hardcover as How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk) will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve: Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner Judge character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships Resolve your own emotional baggage so you're ready for a healthy relationship
By Esther Perel
A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
By John Mordechai Gottman, Julie Gottman
What Makes Love Last? Why Do Some Couples Stay Together Forever, While Others Fall Apart? Is There A Formula For Building A Love That Lasts? How Can You Revive And Renew Your Relationship In Just Seven Days? For The Past Fifty Years, Drs. John And Julie Gottman Have Been Studying Love. The Seven-day Love Prescription Distils Their Work Into An Accessible, Bite-size, Seven-day Action Plan For Deeper Intimacy. Taking You Through Their Most Foundational Findings, The Gottmans Will Help You Build A Love That Lasts In Just Seven Days. Through Small, Immediately Actionable Daily Steps, They Will Help You To Shift Your Relationship For The Better, Providing Trusted Antidotes To Common Issues From Loneliness And Emotional And Physical Disconnection, To Drifting Apart And Losing That Loving Feeling. These Will Teach You How To: · Connect And Check In With Each Other · Ask Each Other Big, Open-ended Questions · Show Appreciation And Gratitude By Saying Thank You · Give Your Partner A Genuine Compliment · Communicate What You Need · Create Moments Of Physical Connection · Declare A Date Night No Matter Who You Are, Or What Kind Of Relationship You Want To Strengthen, The Seven-day Love Prescription Is Guaranteed To Provide You With The Practical Tools To Transform Any Relationship In Your Life For The Better. The Gottmans Prove That Small Frequent Changes Over Just Seven Days Can Strengthen The Foundations Of All Relationships, Allow Them To Flourish, And Create Big, Long-lasting Change Over Time.
By Esther Perel
"Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?Can we want what we already have?Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster?Does good intimacy always make for good sex?"Ether Perel takes on these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.In her twenty years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.While "Mating in Captivity "shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.
By David Schnarch, James Maddock
In this remarkable new book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives.In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people -- golden-anniversary marriages, newly formed couples, and singles alike -- who are struggling with sexual difficulties.Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections:A crash course in sexExplanation of how sexual relationships really workMedical options and bionic solutionsVignettes of couples changing their sexual relationshipsResurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families.Generous of spirit, enlightened, and insightful, Resurrecting Sex is destined to make the world a better place to fall in love.
By Katherine Woodward Thomas
The classic guide to finding love and creating life-altering miracles of happiness and fulfillment, now revised and updated with new insights, stories, teaching points, and transformational exercises. Are you frustrated by stymied relationships, missed connections, and the loneliness of the search for someone to spend the rest of your life with? In this classic, updated guide to finding deep happiness in love, licensed marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas bridges the gap between wanting to find true love and being truly available to create a fulfilling relationship. Love-seekers today have to deal with a precarious terrain of dating and partnering that seems to encourage a lack of commitment and clarity. Calling in “The One” will empower you to have a radically different experience by shifting your painful patterns in love from the inside out, graduating you from unsatisfying relationships and unleashing your power to manifest the happy, healthy love you desire. Based on the Law of Attraction, which is the concept that we attract what we’re ready to receive, the provocative yet simple forty-nine-day program includes a daily lesson, a corresponding practice, and instructions for putting that lession into action in your life. Manifesting meditations, powerful visualizations, and clarifying journal exercises will lead you to recognize and release your hidden inner obstacles to love and help you grow beyond them. At the end of the course, you will be in the ideal state of mind to go out into the world and find your "One." An inspirational approach that offers a life-affirming philosophy on relationships, Calling in “The One” is your guide to finding and keeping the love you seek.
By David M. Buss
The groundbreaking, provocative book that uses evolutionary psychology to explain human mating and the mysteries of love.If we all want love, why is there so much conflict in our most cherished relationships? To answer this question we must look into our evolutionary past, argues prominent psychologist David M. Buss. Based one of the largest studies of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than 10,000 people of all ages from thirty-seven cultures worldwide, The Evolution of Desire is the first work to present a unified theory of human mating behavior. Drawing on a wide range of examples of mating behavior -- from lovebugs to elephant seals, from the Yanomamö tribe of Venezuela to online dating apps -- Buss reveals what women want, what men want, and why their desires radically differ. Love has a central place in human sexual psychology, but conflict, competition, and manipulation also pervade human mating -- something we must confront in order to control our own mating destiny.Updated to reflect the very latest scientific research on human mating, this definitive edition of this classic work of evolutionary psychology explains the powerful forces that shape our most intimate desires.