"How did I do it? What's my secret? I know you want to hear some little trick that just makes the weight fall off. I don't have one of those. What you don't want to hear is that it takes discipline and willpower and smaller portions to lose weight. But we all know this right? So there must be something else at play. And this mysterious 'something else' is what I explored in When Hungry, Eat. There is an engine that fuels discipline and willpower to eat smaller portions, and contrary to popular belief, it's not the mind. The mind is unreliable and a fabulous bullshitter and self-justifier. We have to move from a deeper place, somewhere in the region of our hearts. The best analogy I can offer is to think about how we recover from loss. When someone we love leaves us or dies, it's terrible and painful and we grieve and hurt. There isn't a fast-forward button. We have to allow for the suffering and hold it. That takes a while. After some time, we are able to live without them, though we miss them and pine for them. And after a longer while - maybe years - we are able to think of them with fondness and are grateful we knew them. This is the journey the spirit needs to go through to be released. Losing weight for me was about letting go, like leaving a country you love and all your best friends, and slowly making a home in a new place ..." http://www.joannefedler.com/when-hungry-eat.